Julia had a playdate at our neighbor’s house a couple of days ago. The neighbor has a daughter that is about 6 months older than Julia. Another neighbor joined us with her son who is 2.5 months younger than Julia. I left that playdate with the humbling realization that I need to schedule many more social opportunities for Julia!
To sum up: any toy another child was holding she would try to snatch, if it was another child’s turn to play with a toy that she was holding instant tears and she repeatedly was agressive with the younger child putting him in choke holds and trying to knock him down. Oh and the cat’s tail was yanked several times. Sigh.
Clearly we need to work on sharing and boundaries. I was horribly embarrassed by her behavior but after profuse apologies I decided to give myself grace. She is 14 months old and she can’t learn these social cues in a vacuum–she will learn from further exposure to other children. She is not destined to be a bully, we’ll guide her properly 🙂
I will definitely make sure she has lots of playdates, she will also have occasional exposure to other children when she is in our church nursery every week and next year we are placing her in a Mom’s Day Out nursery school program once a week. Plus as she gets older I will be able to put her in some activities–we’re especially excited to have her try Irish dance 🙂
Hopefully I’ll be able to blog about some behavior improvements soon!